Aug 3rd, 2021
Bonnie Hewitt, the founder of Posh Notions, an upcycling business based in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania shares her pivotal moments from being diagnosed with Guillain-Barre syndrome, among a lot of her chronic illnesses, to founding Posh Notions and winning the Two-Minute Drill contest in the US.
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Glee: I'm curious about how do you approach a mentor? how did you approach David Meltzer? How did you approach these mentors that you have.
Bonnie: And then in 2018 you were mentioning the arthritis. And so 2018 was great. I met Gary V at the beginning of 2018. And anybody knows Gary Vaynerchuk. He's amazing if you don't go, find him on social media. And it was really my first introduction into entrepreneurial, realm. Like I was like, there's people that talk like this they're they they're motivational the inspiration.
I was just like, so taken aback because I had never heard people really talk like Gary V and Tony Robbins and, you know, Lewis, Howes and David Meltzer and all of these different people. And I'm like, wow, this is amazing. So later in 2018, I found out the arthritis had moved into my spine. I had been having a lot of spine pain and I honestly kind of panicked and went to my rheumatologist and said to her, okay, I want to try something medication again, because the nature of the disease is to deteriorate.
So it starts breaking away. Parts of your joints, your organs. It, it attacks them and I already have something also called the general disc disease, which means the same, same thing, different reason that my spine is basically falling apart.
And my youngest two at the time were two and five. And I was like, I want to be able to walk and run and do things with them. So if medication is my only option right now to at least slow this down while I figure something else out, let's do this. And I ended up on something called Humira. And so biologic, injectable.
So I had to give myself a shot every two weeks. And for anybody who's terrified of needles that's me right here. But I felt like it was my only chance to slow this down. Because what it does is it basically shuts off your immune system. So it stops attacking you. And it went horribly wrong. For lack of better words, I was expecting it to be like my saving grace.
I had a lot of hope for, it working and I took a nosedive health wise. I stuck it out for six or seven months. And then in 2019, I met Evan Carmichael, which is also pivotal because he was another person in that realm that I got to meet and boosted me up. And I still actually, I'm very involved with a lot of the things that Evan does.
But I decided after meeting him and, and making all of these plans and the Humira is not working. And I'm trying to, trying to stick it out. because, so I felt like if maybe if I just gave it one more month, one more month, like it would start to work and I would start to feel better and that wasn't happening. So I think it was like March or April, 2018 or 2019. When I finally told my doctor was like, I can't do this anymore.
It's not working. She was trying to get me to stick it out longer. And I was like, no, I'm done. I said, this stuff is wrecking my life. I'm miserable. I feel like I have the flu all the time. I have zero energy. Like I was worse off on the medication than I was on. I'm not sure if it did any good with my spine or not.
But otherwise it just, it wasn't worth it. Like the trade off wasn't worth it at that point. So yeah, that's what happened with that. 2019 is also when I met David Meltzer who was my mentor and now my friend. And had such a tremendous impact on my healing and my life. It's just been incredible.
It's been almost two years since I met him now and the change in myself and the way I view my health and the way I view the world, the way of you, lots of things is so much different. And I, I just, I can't thank him enough, to be honest with you. He's just been, he's been a tremendous, tremendous help and support and guide and just everything.
But yeah, that, that all happened before COVID and Etsy and everything for me, I was still working on posh notions at the time. I remember meeting David for the first time. He agreed to mentor me for a month. And my first phone call with him. I was like, I want I'm working on this, on my unbreakable campaign.
And I was like, I'm and I'm trying to write a book and I'm trying to build a business and try it. And within like five minutes, he was like, you're not going to do any of this stuff until you get your health in order.I like I've never met this man in person. Right. I'm just talking to him on the phone.
And I was like, wow, if you could gather all of that 3000 miles away, and you're willing to talk to me, like, I bet listen to what you have to say. And that it was third part of my healing journey was meeting David. And I guess third pivotal part in my healing journey was meeting David.
And going from like, I have to figure out a way, knowing that there gotta be a different way to finally finding somebody that was going to help me find the way I I don't think I. The impact he was going to have at that point, because when he gave me that advice, it wasn't what I was looking for.
Obviously, like I was looking for business, right. I wasn't looking for that, but it was like the universe delivered and I was like, Hey, I'm ready to listen. I'm ready to hear this now. And over the next several months, he helped me focus on things that either I hadn't thought of before, or did not put enough focus into, so like sleep, for example was one of them.
He helped me with not only just the notion of getting better sleep and how restorative sleep is supposed to be. And I think we all know this intellectually, but we don't think about what really goes into a good night's sleep. Right.
Glee: I can totally relate with that.
Bonnie: Yeah. And like, we all know. seven, eight hours of sleep, but, there's so many things that go into actually having restorative sleep, not just hitting the pillow and waking up in the morning.
So that was one of the biggest things that he helped me with, like right up front. And it just snowballed into, to all of these different tips and tricks and mindset shifts. And I would ask them these questions and the way he would explain things, it was like, wow, I hadn't thought of it that way.
the first, like six to eight months. It was very, very eyeopening to me because
it, supported my idea that I was the one in charge and in control of myself. And then I had no control over it, what anybody else was doing. But on top of that gave me the practical tips
to deal with things that I was struggling with. Right. So yeah, that, sums up 2019
Glee: I'm curious about how do you approach a mentor? how did you approach David Meltzer? How did you approach these mentors that you have.
Bonnie: So I've just recently learned this maybe in the past six months or so that there's decisions that I make super quickly are my instinct or my intuition talking to me and the ones that we kind of let drop, belong and drawn out
Glee: It's like analysis paralysis.
Bonnie: it's like, when you ask yourself this questions, the first answer that comes to you is probably the right answer. But a lot of times we ignore it because we don't want to listen to that, or we don't want to do whatever that thing is. So for me, so meeting Gary V is a perfect example of that.
I decided on a Thursday kind of half joking around on Twitter to drive to New Jersey, which from here is a good, it's like an eight hour drive. Because he was doing a book signing. I had no idea how I was going to do this. I didn't know how I was going to get the money to do it. And we left Friday morning and it was amazing.
I faced so many of my fears that weekend and did so many things that were so out of my comfort zone. Now Gary, isn't a personal mentor of mine. Like I don't know him. or anything. I just, I follow a lot of his content. I've spoken to him via. Social media a few times since then, but Gary V was very much still in the hustle mentality when I first met him.
And I realized very quickly that the hustle culture did not work for me and for my body. And then I was not able to do that. And I had to figure out how to do things my own way. But he has since shifted, which I love about him, that he has just shifted more into to mindset and doing what's right for you, et cetera, et cetera.
Evan was another one that was very spur of the moment. So I was supposed to do my Humira shot. The, I did them on Friday nights on think it was another Thursday. I found out he was going to be here in Pittsburgh on a Saturday. I was like, oh, there's no way I'm going. I have to do my shot. And I can't do that.
And then I decided I was going to wait and delay my shot a day so I could go meet him, bought the
tickets. Yeah, I Just, delayed it a night and took, it when I came home after seeing him. but it was very spur of the moment decision. I was like, I'm going to do this. I'm going to get my ticket.
My husband's like, why are you going to pay $50? Go hear somebody speak. And now I think he understands a lot more now. And I'm like, I was like, you don't understand who this guy is. So I ended up going, ahead. And I went down and met him and it was just amazing. Like I said, it spurred all of these different things in me.
I had so much confidence after meeting him and so many ideas, the creativity was just kind of flying out of me. But what I did with Evan was different. After meeting Evan, I started engaging a lot with him on social media. He was doing a lot of lives on YouTube. I got really engaged in his culture and a lot of the other people that were following him.
I started providing value to like his other followers. So if he wasn't alive, people were asking questions. I would try to help the best that I could. And I really immersed myself kind of in his culture and in his ecosystem. what I did when I went down to see him here in Pittsburgh, I made shirts for him and his wife and a couple of other people basically this, circle of success kind of thing.
And he had all these different things on there. So I made a few of those and I took them with me and gave them to him. And he's very humble. And he was very grateful that I made, gifts for him. I wouldn't have had, he ended up coming to Cleveland, which is only a couple hour drive from here.
And I ended up making shirts for the whole team and driving out to Cleveland. so he had broken his neck on tour and he couldn't put his hoodies on anymore. So I bought it as zip up hoodie and made him a zip-up hoodie with his logo on it because he couldn't get anything here in the states because they're from Canada and they were on tour.
So I kept in contact with these people and providing value and trying to do things it'd be helpful. With David, it was a little bit different. I learned about David from Evan's book Your One Word, and then I read David's book.
And then I found David on Instagram and I tried to go live with David one time on Instagram. And for some reason my, phone wouldn't connect. So I reached out to him and the DM. Yeah. I reached out into and he is such a humble giving, genuine, like he will talk to anybody. He's just so giving of everything that he has, like, he believes so much in abundance and the power of receiving and we went back and forth and conversation a little bit and he ended up telling me about, he had this thing where he would mentor anybody for one month for free.
And then if you decided to mentor with him afterwards, or you didn't, you know, whatever. So I was like, I'll take it. It took a few weeks to get everything set up, but I just, I ended up building a relationship with him. And that's really what most mentors, at least in my experience like these people want to help people.
they're out on social media and they're being public with their knowledge, they want to help you. That's a lot of them just want to serve, that was a really long answer out of say, like ask, like, I know that sounds short and sweet and simple, but you also want to make sure you're trying to provide value to them because a lot of people, you, go in and you say, I need this from you, or I want this from me or you do this for me.
And they have no idea who you are. Most people aren't going to say yes, right after the bat. But if you're showing up in their lives and you're showing up in their, free coaching sessions and you're showing up on their social media and you're showing that you're, trying to give value and trying to be helpful, that you're appreciative all of those different things, more likely you're going to get, a Yes answer. Also a lot of these people have coaching programs that they have different things built in. To what they do.
Glee: Yeah. Thank you for that, Bonnie, because I think most people, yes, you mentioned most people have that thinking that, because you're a mentor, you're just going to give me, all the things that I need, but it should be like a two way kind of thing. Right?
Bonnie: exactly a hundred percent even with David now, I still you know, ask him, can I help with this? Or I know somebody's birthday is coming up. Can I make something for that? And it's not even like a, trading. Like it has to be a genuine
Yes. To give something to someone without expecting to get something back because that's not, not a relationship that's just trading.
Like there's, there's a difference.
it starts with what your intentions are.